By Tami Finseth
Sparks, Chemistry & Love at First Sight: Summer Luvin’
Love: everybody wants it, yet why does it seem to elude so many of us? Should love be considered the eighth Wonder of the World? Is it really up there with The Great Pyramid of Giza or the Hanging Gardens of Babylon? Or is it that we as people have been brainwashed by all the romantic movies, the Disney princesses, and the vision of Cupid’s bow hitting our hearts when our eyes lock with our beloveds? Have all of these perfect fantasies of love closed off our minds and in turn our hearts to the potential of love that is sitting right in front of us? I believe love, attraction, chemistry…all of that is something that builds over time. In our early 20’s attraction is the ultimate captivator, it’s what draws us together romantically, so go after it! Experience what love throws your way! But, as we get older, learn more about life and the challenges that come with it, our list of what is important in a partner changes. Don’t get me wrong, we all want to meet our soul mate, but the package that person arrives in is wrapped differently as time goes on. At some point we realize that looks grow with a great personality, that we’ll gladly accept a half an inch shorter vs. lack of integrity, and that being able to engage in an intelligent conversation versus being knocked off our feet upon “first sight” trumps everything. Isn’t our vision of a true soul mate somebody who loves us unconditionally at our best, yet, still sees the best is us at our worst? Don’t we all want that somebody who makes us laugh just a little too hard, who makes us smile just at the sound of their text ‘pinging’ our phone? Isn’t our soul mate the person we can’t live without, and not just the one we can see ourselves living with? I think your true love, your soul mate, your happily ever after, is that person you see yourself sitting next to in a rocking chair on your front porch when you’re 90 years old looking at each other with a little twinkle in your eyes as you reminisce about life saying, “Oh yes, darling, I remember when.”
See, summer love isn’t about your “happily ever afters.” They’re about getting to know someone, enjoying a meal, a laugh, and making a human connection. Stop sabotaging and looking for Cupid to show up or fireworks to burst into color above their head, because in doing so, you may be letting your soul mate walk away as well as setting yourself up for constant disappointment. Relax, enjoy, exhale and if you find yourself laughing, enjoying conversation and not realizing that two hours have passed by, along with a great meal, go ahead and see that person again. Attraction grows, chemistry builds and desire is best slowly stirred. A relationship doesn’t happen overnight. Remember, is it starts with fireworks where does it have to go? Get to know someone, learn about them and give love a chance. Summer is a great time to expose you to new situations, new people and have fun. True love is found in the small steps, and it’s not as elusive as you may think. So, come one, get out there this summer! You won’t be sorry.